The younger man and the older woman.
To date, or not too date?
Remember last Sunday, when I posted about older women dating younger men? I think I could be on to something here.
It seems that all my traffic recently has been on this same subject.
According to my Bloglog stats, I have had many hits come to me by way of - is it OK to date younger women? - The older woman, younger guy, and so on. I never really gave this subject all too much thought, (amazing - since I am an Aquarius)
Funny though, my friend and I were just talking about this subject via text messaging last night. We were discussing how, when we were together last year and took a break from each other - he dated someone that was about 18 years younger then he was. I thought it was gross, she was just 24, and he actually ended up not liking it because he said it felt like she was just a kid, as she behaved rather immaturely. drinking too much, partying all the time, etc.
But, on the same note - he likes the idea of a young guy with an older woman. Look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. I believe they are 15 years apart in age?
So what makes it different? I always thought “women matured much faster then men.” So, at what point does this become bypassed and the men are looking for the older, mature woman?
I think it is just society that puts the rules on everything. Just last night, my daughter and I watched an English movie about a teacher that was sleeping with a much younger student. Of course a teacher should never be sleeping with her student in the first place, but what if he was over that 18 year mark? Then it would have been “gross” but yet, at the same time, “OK” because he was indeed 18 and legal?
It seems to be everywhere these days. And something must be up if it is being searched for frequently. I was never single in my 20’s and it wasn’t until I was 35 that I actually became single again, and in the dating field. (Which I totally hate being in BTW.) But, most men my age and older are married, settled and have the house, the kids, and the swanky car. So that obviously leaves the “young-ins” - as I like to call em. Or, the 60 year olds that are old, single drunks. Yuck. ;(
My poll that I have running - over there——————>
So far it is saying that most people feel that it depends on the age of the woman. Nobody, so far has chosen “No” though. And I got a few Yes answers too. Go voice your opinions people and vote! I want to know! This really is an interesting topic.
Here is one woman’s really sweet story of her younger guy. She is obviously much older then he is. And her hubby has never given age a second thought.
I Village posted this article that was taken from the book “Older Women, Younger men” Check out the link here.
Not only are women called “Cougars” but apparently, this is called the “Mrs. Robinson syndrome.”
You learn new things everyday my friends. 
I even found dating sites that cater to “Cougars.” lol.
So, what say you all? please, share your opinions with me!
Inquiring minds wanna know.
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Here’s what I don’t understand… why is that women get “Labels”… Cougar, Mrs. Robinson, Slut, Old Maid, etc…. etc.. but GUYS don’t get labels for doing the same damn thing! Whether it’s dating younger women, sleeping around or being old, alone and a million dogs/cats…etc….
I HATE that.. it’s so darn gender biased!
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Cinn, I have often wondered that myself. They get the high 5’s while we get labeled. I guess that is society at it’s best…or worst.
You had to know how I would vote. More power to the lady that can keep it sexy at 60!!~~Dee
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Dee- LOL> I would guess that you would vote that way. heehee.
I was going to ask the same question as Cinnkitty- why do women get labeled and men some how gain “respect” from their friends? Is it the macho thing? I just turned 35 and although I haven’t seriously dated that many men, (ok only 2), both have been older- one by 2 years, the other 5 years. When my birthday was approaching this year I thought to myself- “All the men I know are either married, in a relationship, gay, or recently divorced and believe me I learned my lesson with recently divorced men. Could or would I date a younger man? I could, but not someone 10 years younger. 5 sure. Now, where are they- I need one.
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Beth, I really have no idea. I think that it starts as kids in HS. All the boys were looked up to if they screwed the girls, and the women were viewed as sluts. It’s STILL the same way these days too- I hear my daughter and her GF’s talk about it all the time. I just don’t understand it. ;(
As for dating - I am all done dating - there is just NOTHING out there. It’s awful.
a very interesting subject. at 45 I find myself single and back in the dating world. In my younger days I preferred older men (10, 14,20 years older than me). Now I figure that men my age must have caught up in the maturity stakes so I shall settle for my own age group. I was looking around the 35 to 48 age band but as the months have passed and I have been hit on so many times but guys who are in their thirties and twenties I am finding myself gearing more towards the older guys 44 to 52……not sure why other than I cannot get my head around younger guys wanting to be with me. I have had a couple of lovers who are a year or two younger than me. But I think I want someone my age or a couple of years older. I find it very distasteful when I get a guy who is my son’s age or not much older hitting on me. Yet when I was 20 I was seeing a man of 42 whose son was a year older than me!!
LIR, I seem to kind of stuck between not allowing 10 years + or - either way. For some reason though, I am not interested in men that are say, 20+ years older then me. Maybe it’s because I do work in a nursing home…lol. I know what I am going to be seeing in 20 years…LOL.
Actually, I think I might actually be comfortable with a man a tad younger then I. I think this might be because I have never really grown up…I still love video games and all that!
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I’m 42 and yeah, I end up with mostly the younger ones simply because they are available. Most single guys close to my age are the ones who’ve spent the past 20 years messing around and now suddenly realize they want to have kids.
My youngest is 16. I’m not about to stop popping out more kids at this point in my life. I’m not opposed to older men, but generally I find we don’t have a whole lot in common. And, men that age tend to “let themselves go!” Why do women have to stay young and hot looking but men can look like beach balls?
By nature or genetically speaking, men are programmed to mate with fertile women. The older we get the less fertile and able to produce healthy offspring we become. I think that’s why it seems to be acceptable for men to date younger.
For us? Well, seems to me they just want us to shut up and go sit in the kitchen or something. Once we get beyond a certain age we are not “useful” for reproduction and therefore useless. That and we become competition for men in the workforce etc. Who wants to be beat by some 40 year old “old” lady?
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Riverbender,You could be right, as to why men like the younger women! But, why do some younger men love the older women? Considering we are kinda moving outta our youth and all… lol.